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Resources

The WRC maintains information on a multitude of campus, community-based and national resources. Come by B-130 to pick up brochures. Additionally we have website links to local organizations here: (Document titled: WRC website linksupdated)

Lactation Spaces on campus

Health Services (main campus, E 051 under Beck’s Bookstore): Students may request a private room to pump during normal hours of operation: Mon-Fri, 7:30am-4:30pm, Tues until 6pm. Call for an appointment (773) 442-5800

Ronald Williams Library (main campus):

The NEIU Campus Community may use the new interim lactation space in the library, room 301. Check in at the Multimedia Learning Resource Center (MLRC) on the 3rd floor to obtain the key. http://library.neiu.edu/aboutthelibrary/hours.html

Interpersonal Violence

It is really important to understand what Interpersonal Violence (IPV) is so that we can identify it when it occurs. So often we think we know what it is and how it happens but in reality our understanding may not be accurate. IPV is defined as sexual assault, stalking, and relationship violence and involves issues of power and control. In all instances, survivors of the abuse are never to blame. The person who committed the acts of violence made the choice to hurt someone and the responsibility rests solely with perpetrator.

Sexual Assault:

This is an umbrella term that refers to any sexual activity where one person has not gained permission (consent) from the other person for the sexual activity.

Relationship Violence (Domestic and Dating Violence):

This is a pattern of abuse that occurs in a relationship, whether you are (or have been) in a committed partnership, married, or dating. Abuse can take many forms, including physical (e.g: hitting, pushing etc), emotional (e.g: making someone feel they are worthless or stupid), verbal (e.g: name calling, put downs), financial (e.g: withholding money), and sexual (e.g: withholding or forcing sexual acts).

Stalking:

Is a purposeful course of action, directed at a specific person that causes that person to be afraid, fearful, or intimidated. Stalking can occur during a relationship, after a relationship, or in the absence of a relationship.

How To Help A Friend:

Below are some things to consider when listening/talking to a survivor of interpersonal violence:

Listen.

Often a person in crisis just needs someone to hear their story. You can show you’re really listening to your friend by nodding, looking your friend in the eye, saying “uh-huh”, etc.

Believe.

One of the most important things you can do is to communicate that you believe what your friend is telling you. Survivors often worry that they will not be believed or have been told by the perpetrator that no one will believe them.

Help to clarify what you think your friend is saying.

Listen carefully to your friend and then tell them what you think they said about their feelings. Your friend may be talking about her/his emotions in a way that seems jumbled. You can help by sorting out and repeating back what was said. Say things like: “It sounds like…” or “What I hear you saying is…”

Let your friend decide what they want to talk about.

Don’t push your friend to talk about something if they are not comfortable. If you feel you need to ask questions ask gently, so your friend doesn’t feel that you’re prying. Ask general questions, e.g., “Do you want to talk about what happened?” rather than, “How were you raped?”

Avoid asking accusing questions.

The perpetrator is to blame for what happened. You may feel angry and frustrated about what happened, but don’t take it out on your friend. Don’t ask questions about why your friend did (or didn’t do) a certain thing. Survivors do the best they can with confusing, terrifying, or life-threatening situations.

Don’t make decisions for your friend.

The experience of a interpersonal violence incident is one of having complete control taken away. You can help your friend regain power over her/his life by letting your friend make her/his own decisions about what to do next. Help your friend get information on what all of the options are, but let her/him make the decisions.

Show that you care.

Remind your friend that you care, and that this crisis hasn’t changed that fact. You can show your affection by hugging (check your friend is okay to be hugged), telling your friend that you love her/him, or even just sitting quietly together. You may not feel that you are doing much, but your presence can mean a great deal.

Remind your friend to have self-compassion and self-care.

Your friend has been through a very difficult experience. Remind your friend to be good to herself/himself.

Take care of yourself.

It can be very upsetting and traumatic when a friend is victimized. You may feel powerless, guilty, shocked, angry, or scared. These feelings are normal, natural responses. Be sure to be kind to yourself and get help managing these emotions.

Information taken from Harvard University’s “How can I help my friend” publication. The Office of Sexual Assault Response and Prevention. 2007

How to report on-campus:

Sexual Harassment

Northeastern Illinois University prohibits the sexual harassment of employees, students and visitors to campus. Copies of the sexual harassment policy and Discrimination Grievance Procedure are available in Counseling Services (D-024), and the Office of Equal Opportunity, Affirmative Action and Ethics Compliance (C-628).

Sexual Assault

Northeastern Illinois University does not tolerate sexual assault, which is a specific type of sex discrimination prohibited by Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972. Northeastern cooperates fully with legal authorities in preventing and prosecuting sexual assault offenses, and imposes strict sanctions against those found responsible for sexual assault. The University offers educational programs and resources designed to promote the awareness and prevention of sexual assault on all campuses. Northeastern recognizes that victims and offenders can be any gender, including transgender, and expects members of the University community to help maintain a safe environment.

NEIU Title IX Page

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